Holiday Gatherings: How to Know if Your Loved One Needs Care

The holiday season is usually filled with joyful and warm family gatherings. We visit our older relatives that we might not see throughout the year as much. While this can be a happy time, it can also bring hard truths where we notice subtle changes in our loved one’s appearance and behavior. Some of these changes may be harmless, but others can be early warning signs that they might benefit from in-home care.

Changes in Holiday Spirit

While everyone has ups and downs, the holiday season is traditionally synonymous with joy and celebration. If your loved one’s spirit is in noticeable decline this holiday season, that can signal underlying issues. Whether it’s not decorating their home, avoiding holiday gatherings, or showing a lack of interest in festive activities, these can be subtle indicators that your loved one is in need of support. If they seem disinterested in festive activities they once enjoyed or opt out of family gatherings, they might be feeling loneliness, emotional distress, depression, or early signs of cognitive decline. Being aware of such shifts and knowing what to look for can help your whole family tremendously.

What signs do I look for?

Unfinished or Incomplete Holiday Tasks

Holiday preparations, from baking to decorating, often come with a flurry of tasks. However, if Grandma always baked her famous pumpkin pie but has yet to make it this year, or if Grandpa’s handcrafted ornaments are missing from the tree, it might be more than forgetfulness. Struggling with once-easy tasks could indicate physical discomfort, decreasing energy levels, or potential cognitive challenges.

Forgetfulness or Confusion with Gifts

Forgetting a name or misplacing an item occasionally is natural. However, if your loved one forgets whom they bought a gift for, gives inappropriate gifts, or seems confused by the act of gift-giving, it could indicate cognitive challenges. Approach the topic gently, asking them about the story or thought behind the gift. This can offer insight into their thought process and memory.

Changes in Personal Appearance

While everyone wants to look their best for the holidays, pay attention to any drastic or uncharacteristic changes in your loved one’s appearance. This can include wearing the same clothes repeatedly, unkempt hair, or neglecting hygiene. Personal grooming plays a significant role in one’s self-esteem and overall well-being. Such changes can stem from physical limitations or memory challenges, emphasizing the need to ensure they remain safe and well cared for in the future.

Avoidance of Social Interactions

Humans are inherently social, and the holidays amplify our need for connection. If a previously outgoing loved one begins to withdraw from social situations or avoids gatherings, it might be a sign of deeper issues. Possible reasons include difficulty in communication, like hearing or cognitive challenges, feelings of inadequacy, isolation, and depression.

Neglecting Home Maintenance

The condition of one’s living environment reflects their physical and mental health. If daily tasks are left undone, or the space is disorganized, it could signify personal challenges. Things like spoiled food in the fridge or untouched medication dispensers mean your loved one may not be capable of managing a household alone. These issues may result from physical limitations or discomfort, decreasing energy levels, cognitive challenges, or a combination.

You’ve Spotted the Warning Signs, What Now?

Recognizing changes in our aging loved ones can be an emotional experience. It’s a balance of concern, love, and the innate desire to support them. It’s only natural to feel a rush of emotions: worry about their well-being, a longing for the past, and uncertainty about the future. In such moments, it’s essential to remember that you’re not alone and there are proactive steps you can take. Click below to see some solutions to these issues you’ve noticed.

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Prioritizing Our Seniors This Holiday Season

The holidays remind us of the importance of family and connection. As we gather and celebrate, it’s crucial to pay close attention to our aging loved ones. Sometimes, subtle changes in their behavior or demeanor might emerge amidst the festivities. These changes can be indicators of deeper needs or concerns. By being observant and responsive, we can ensure they feel supported and valued. After all, the true spirit of the season is about making sure everyone, regardless of age, feels included, loved, and cared for.

If you or your loved one are in need of support, contact our caregiving team at 1-800-GRISWOLD or find a Caregiver near you.