How to Help Someone with Memory Loss

Seeing your loved one suffering from memory issues can be quite concerning. In this post, we’ll take a look at how to help people with memory loss. This will include a look at common memory problems, how to help someone with memory loss, how to start the conversation, and finally, how to take care of yourself.

Common Memory Problems for Older Adults

Before we review helping someone with memory loss, let’s take a look at some common issues with memory. This can include:

• Forgetting recent conversations or events
• Struggling to recall names or words
• Difficulty completing everyday tasks
• Becoming disoriented outside the home
• Feeling confused or lost even at home
• Forgetting upcoming appointments or occasions
• Difficulty recognizing familiar faces
• Losing touch with personal beliefs or identity

Next, let’s review steps for helping elderly with memory loss.

How to Help Someone with Memory Loss

There are many things you can do to help an older adult with memory loss. These include:

• Learn. There are many different types of dementia and understanding the specific condition can help you provide better support.
• Keep calm and consistent. Stay calm during emotional outbursts, and create a clear, predictable routine to reduce frustration and stress.
• Provide gentle reminders. If they don’t recognize someone, try to use gentle language such as “Wow, look at how your grandson has grown.”
• Remind them about aspects of their identity. Sometimes, those with memory issues can forget important aspects of their cultural identity. If they were once religious, for example, you can perhaps decorate their room with crosses or other religious artifacts.
• Collaborate and find community. Involve your loved one in decisions about their care, respect their preferences, and connect with support networks for both of you.
• Use assistive technology. This can include electronic pill boxes to remind your loved one to take their medication or GPS tracking technology in cell phones if they get lost easily.

Providing help for memory loss in seniors can be a tricky subject to navigate and we will review ways to talk about it in the next section.

How to Talk About Memory Help with Your Loved One

It can be scary to see your loved one lose their memory and starting a conversation about it can ultimately lead to them getting help. Below are some things to consider.

• Choose a familiar, comfortable place. Have the conversation in a setting where both of you feel at ease.
• Find a quiet, undisturbed time. Pick a moment when you won’t be rushed.
• Use careful, reassuring language. Gently ask if they’re struggling with anything or if they noticed any changes.
• Share your concerns thoughtfully. Try to mention specific examples and show that your concern stems from a desire to help them.
• Stay positive. Emphasize that seeing a doctor could lead to help.
• Listen and adapt. Adjust your approach depending on their feelings.

Now that we know what to do if someone is losing their memory, it’s time to look at caring for the second-most important person in this process: You.

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Self-Care When Caring for Someone with Memory Loss

Caring for someone with memory loss can be pretty difficult and that is why it is vital to practice self care when necessary. Your self-care regimen can include the following:

• Prioritize your health. Eat a balanced diet, focusing on lean protein, whole grains, fruits, vegetables, and healthy fats. Schedule regular checkups with your doctor.
• Exercise and involve your loved one. Incorporate creative ways to fit exercise into your day. You can even involve your loved one in activities such as walking or dancing.
• Incorporate stress relief. Try meditation, breathing exercises, or talking with friends.
• Educate yourself. Learn about your loved one’s condition and its progression. Join support groups to connect with others for advice or emotional support.
• Take breaks. Accept offers of help or ask someone to fill in so you can recharge. Consider respite care when needed, and don’t feel guilty about taking time for yourself.

If you need support caring for someone with memory loss, contact our caregiving team today at 1-800-GRISWOLD or find a Caregiver near you.